Friday, April 27, 2012


Ever have one of those moments where you say something that you are pretty sure you didn't know before you said it? That happened to me tonight....again.

I am an external processor, so I guess it's bound to occur the longer I keep talking.  The odd thing is the person prompting this odd meditation is a girl who doesn't really gossip......she actually hardly speaks at all.  I've known her for 3 years now, and I am sort of at this odd place of "do I continue to be friends with her?"   The reason I would stop pursuing a friendship wouldn't be because she lacks a passion for gossip, but because she isn't transparent at all.  So, here is the little odd theory that came out of my mouth.....based on my experience in friendships with many different women:

  Gossip is essentially false intimacy.

Women who have close friends know that in order for the friendship to have any meaning at all, both women need to share their OWN hearts, little by little, deeper and takes time, a long time for some, especially if they have been burned or back bitten by other women they opened up to. I am the type of person who lays a few cards on the table, cards that might make many people 'fold' and never speak to me again. Honestly, I don't mind, because if they can't handle certain things about me up front, I'm not really the type to tiptoe around my convictions - let's just say. :P The crux of the matter though is, with women who are not-so-ready to make themselves vulnerable, they sometimes will make OTHER people vulnerable by gossiping about them. (I don't mean 'holy gossip' by speaking well of others or telling of a good report of the goings on of someone we all know that is public information).....I'm talking about all the negativity that spews out with every breath. "Oh, did you hear what so and so did to so and so, and oh, this person did this to me, can you believe it?" ACK.

I honestly know that this kind of gossip makes me want to barf.....and I know that I've listened to it, and unwittingly done it as well. I know this because when I'm with women who barely speak, I SEEK to connect with them, but because they do not make themselves vulnerable whatsoever, I've caught myself speaking in unsavory ways to try to get them to engage with any kind of response. PUKE.

Well, by God's grace, this is 2012. There have been SO MANY things brought to my attention by the Lord, and this is the year of BIG change for me.....I want to be holy....I want to love and be a more faithful follower of Christ. I hope that my friends know that they can rebuke me for any unwholesome talk.....I sure wish they would love me enough to do that. I have many godly friends who would. PTL

Back to the original note, for those who are slow to open up about ANYTHING real (fears, hopes, trials, even just random trivial things) and thus, just don't talk at bold for the sake of fellowship, and you will be blessed. Truly. Take a risk and tell someone you're not perfect....tell them that you have trials too...that you have growing to do (get specific)....take that chance, because you will gain a friend by being transparent, that you would lose if you just said nothing and listened.

 up out ~ jenb


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At 7/01/2013 4:50 AM, Blogger Steve Finnell said...


What is the meaning of calling on the name of the Lord? Many assume that believing in Jesus and saying a form of a sinner's prayer constitutes, calling on the name of the Lord. The problem with that theory is none of the conversions under the New Covenant support that assumption. Not one time is anyone ever told to believe and say the sinner's prayer in order to be saved.

The apostle Peter on the Day of Pentecost quoted the prophet Joel, Acts 2:21 And it shall come to pass that whoever calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved." (NKJV)

The apostle Peter preached the first gospel sermon under the New Covenant. Peter did not tell the 3000 converts to believe and say the sinner's prayer.

Peter preached the death, burial, and resurrection of Jesus. He preached Jesus as both Lord and Christ. When they heard this they asked Peter and the rest of the brethren what they should do?(Acts 2:22-37) Peter told them what to do. Acts 2:38 Peter said to them, "Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit.(NKJV)

How did the 3000 on the Day of Pentecost call on the name of the Lord and become saved?
1. They believed that Jesus was both Lord and Christ.
2. They believed that God raised Jesus from the grave.
3. They repented. Repentance is a change of heart. Repentance means to be converted so that God may forgive your sins. Repentance is to make the intellectual commitment to turn from sin and turn toward God. (Acts 3:19, Acts 2:38)
4. They were immersed in water (baptized) so that their sins could be forgiven.

How did the 3000 on the Day of Pentecost not call on the name of the Lord?
1. They did not say a sinner's prayer.
2. Not one person was asked to pray for forgiveness.
3. Not one single man was told to be baptized as a testimony of his faith.
4. No one was told that water baptism was a just an act of obedience.
5. No one was informed they were saved the very minute they believed.
6. Not one person was told that water baptism was not essential for the forgiveness of sins.
7. Not one person was told to be baptized so they could join a denominational church.

Jesus said he that believes and is baptized shall be saved. (Mark 16"16) Jesus did not say he who believes and says a sinner's prayer shall be saved.



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